Should I send flowers?

With many people opting for charitable donations, the long-held custom of sending flowers when someone dies is declining. Unless a family specifically requests that flowers be omitted, there are some good reasons to keep the tradition of sending flowers.



The three-fold experience of seeing, smelling and experiencing the beauty of flowers offers comfort in a unique way. Flowers lift our spirits; the aroma reminds us of spring and rebirth, and the affection of someone taking time to send flowers. Each of these provide healing salve for the broken heart. Flowers are symbolic, adding beauty, richness and meaning to ritual.


In short here are the best reasons to send flowers at the time of a death, unless, of course, the family specifically requests that flowers be omitted.


  • Flowers are given on many occasions that celebrate love, as such flowers express affection.
  • Flowers create an environment of warmth and beauty.
  • Since flowers are created from seeds regenerated from dead flowers they carry the spiritual message of death and rebirth.
  • The sweet aroma of flowers reminds us of springtime and new life


At a funeral, an orchid plant symbolizes your everlasting love for the deceased. If you are giving an orchid plant to someone to express your condolences, it is recommended that you choose a white or pink orchid since these symbolize sympathy.

Suggestions of what to do with flowers after the funeral.


  • Distribute to family members and close friends to take home
  • Drop them off at the home of family or friends of the deceased unable to attend the funeral
  • Donate to care facilities such as hospitals, skilled nursing facilities, rehabs, or treatment centers
  • Allow flowers to die, germinate the seeds and plant at your home or your loved one’s grave.


When considering if you should send flowers to a funeral remember that flowers extend sympathy to the bereaved and respect for the deceased.

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